Mistake is NOT a dirty word

Learning to Love yourself and ALL your Mistakes 

Learning constantly from your good and not so good actions is what keeps me awake and inspired – I truly have come to realise that very recently.

You know sometimes when you hit that flat spot and feel like your stuck, your going no-where OR in fact you feel like your going backwards? No?

I do – I have in fact had THAT recently, 2014 came to a delicious close and I almost had this lost, funny funk at the end where I didn’t reflect and honour myself Enough for just how far I had and have come from the living hell I put myself in a mere 2 years ago.

Thank You Denelle for choosing to change, and then Thank You Denelle for accepting every single curve ball that was thrown at you along the way.

But fast forward to tonight AND

My beautiful darling heart friend PK on a coaching call threw out into the wind Everything I’ve been feeling this last week. I couldn’t quite put into words how I was feeling about recognising that I’d come this far, then stalled, then felt a little shit, then self studying my place and why I felt shit and recognised where I was and where I needed to go and then DOING something about it.

Ever feel like you need a flotation device to get through the waves of growth? I do. 

So I will use her words, every day there are little ‘shifts’ happening, I’m literally shifting my mindset and growing Every Single day. This is nothing new you say?

And yes it’s all very clichéd.

BUT today I’ve gone through a rollercoaster of emotion when something happened and came to me through a very unlikely path and it’s shone a spotlight on my stall-mate. My standing still and not actually moving forward ability right now.

I WILL NOT and YOU WILL NOT attract the things and people YOU want or I want until you become that thing, that trait, that ideal. If your not there yet and you want to be and you want the success and by success I mean a feeling personally, mentally, business wise Whatever – then get to hard ass work on your ass.

Literally Work, Work, Work on your self and then on your shit. Iggy has got it down pat, get up, suit up and work. Does this have to be boring and a hard slog? Nope, no, absolutely not. I actually reckon that if it IS shitty then it’s probably not the right path.

SO what do you do when you realise you’ve hit a wall and have come ridiculously far in this short time on earth and your so far into a journey, or new way of life, or new job, or new venture and you go SHIT I need to stop and review and WORK on a particular area. ?????

 

I Know that there are so many success principles out there and so many mentors and coaches, and people who have massive success and that we should model and follow what others who are successful and happy and do what they do? Right, yep, tick.

SO I’m going to put that to the test – I Can’t progress in my business, I can’t attract the people I want to have on my board of my new company I can’t grow as a human being to reach a higher happiness or enlightenment or I can’t help have an impact on this world and the people of Australia or the world without having some painful growth and some serious self reflection.

I want to share this with you though – and I realise that’s what I’ve always done before, BUT I want to intimately share with you how I feel and how I over-come that feeling with a Action to make my success situation better.

SO what am I struggling with right now?

HA – where do I start?

BUT I have learnt hard that if I try and focus on Everything I want to change ALL at once then I am sure to set myself up for failure.

I am wanting to become stronger of the things I look for in a Leader – I want to get up in the morning and Simply stick to a schedule…. Simple right?

Babes trust me I Love spontaneity – YES I love adventure and running on my own schedule BUT I also want to be able to kick back in 5 years with true financial freedom, the real freedom to living without a restraint and being able to help people whenever you want and where ever you want. THAT is where I want to be in 5 years.

And guess what?

It’s not going to happen with long walks on the beach and pina coladas…

SO I will love on myself, and I will honour some downtime and I will exercise and yoga and meditate and give ME the time I deserve.

BUT holy fuck balls – I will NOT be sitting back cruising and pretending I’m not working when I really actually just want to be working on my dream.

And I then sit back and thing to myself well when you LOVE what you do – then your not really working are you?

Every single day I am going to wake up and listen to Robin Sharma’s success tips for getting up at 5 am I’m going to solidly join the club, I’m going to change that one small ritual and change it consistently – because I’ve tried and gone down that path and it worked – but I didn’t make the habit. I will do the work I need to first straight away in the morning before I have to go to any events or day job that I need to attend and I’ll do that with the knowledge and gut feeling of accomplishment and knowing that I’ve eaten the frog early in the morning and have the rest of the day ahead of me.

I’m committing to reading a new book this week which I have been given as a task anyways – it’s Brene Brown – Gifts of Imperfection, I will pick it up and read it despite the difficulty I found when I opened it last time… There’s going to be a take away and I’m going to start loving myself more.

WHY? Well the biggest lesson I’ve learn over the last couple of weeks through loss and heart ache and being in a un-observed pity party is that I’m hardest on others when I’m being hard on myself. And that gets no one anywhere.

Least of all me or the ones I love the most that surround me. If you agree with this then feel free to email me or comment below and share your experience and how you feel you treat others when your hating on yourself.

Stop hating on the inside and start pouring the love right on in so that you over-flow and love all on the people around you.

Sucking it up, being a little bit better and a little more accepting of the hardness will bring so much more fulfilment and happiness into your life.

And my biggest things I want to feel this fine Twenty Fifteen is fulfilled, accomplished, less worried and less overwhelmed. I need to love myself more – I want to feel more loved and the only way this is going to happen is if I start loving myself first.

Simple actions – daily actions, simple tasks, daily reflection – If it looks like I’m being a hermit and working more, then take that as whatever you want.

I think I want personal success and love and fulfilment and impact on others more than I want pretty pictures that don’t grow past mediocrity.

Sending Love to you all always.

And I hope you take Something away from this and my journey that might be able to Help you become a better version and a better human being.

Xoxo

Getting up early enough to Live

Happy Monday Hotties

I love the idea of getting up without an alarm clock – NOT being on anyone’s schedule. I have been that person today and absolutely slept the hell in – ignoring the heat, ignoring the snooze button all together and not giving any fucks about my schedule that I had aligned with a massive business week.

BIGGEST downfall – it’s now so hot that my aircon isn’t working, I’m regretting sleeping late and not putting my phone on the other side of the room, and even though I practiced yoga, meditated and went to the chiro this morning, I’m now a sweaty betty running low on time.

BUT I Know this is just a holiday sleep in hangover, that’s turned into me working late nights. Right?

This last year after coming off a corporate alarm clock and then a construction site based 5 am starts with 4 am rises, I’ve wobbled between Wanting an early morning start to my day and being a total night owl learning how to self discipline;

Cue the cons of being your own boss and an entrepreneur.

SO you say, well; you must not it bad enough, the fire isn’t lit in your belly, your lazy, your this or your that and you start to compare, compare, compare… Especially when you hear the stories of the winning guys and gals of the world or your industry killing the late night/early morning incessant workaholic look or the 5am club. 

I disagree – I always want the bigger picture, I’m creating massive visions, dreaming big, setting my goals bloody high and plenty-full, but I’m failing on the ritual side. And that’s ok, I couldn’t just step out of bed one day a born again self motivator with no said boss man structure to my working week and take to it like a duck to water now could I?

There has never been any structure in my life – I grew up on a cattle station in the middle of no-where, with a Mum who was amazing and left me to my own devices, getting me up for school but ultimately letting me design my own day, I LOVE this – but I also understand I’m not the best morning person. So awesome flow into adult life – I now sometimes struggle to maintain routine. Whoops, well no surprises there.

What is it? What can I do? I’ve turned to Robin Sharma and Tony Robbins in this instance to help me pull my proverbial shit together and catch the elusive morning breezes. Because I KNOW Rumi – I know, YOUR right sister. Absolutely, I want to catch those secrets from the morning breeze. They have many stories to tell.

SO Happy hot ass Monday, hope your feeling it beautifully where ever you are, and if your stuck in a job or a situation where you don’t like it and your being one of those annoying gits complaining about it to everyone who will listen – remember this: Thoughts become things, what you say will manifest and so if you think about something long enough, speak about it long enough  and then do things towards it long enough – it will eventually come true. Huh? Yes you’ll still be stuck in the same situation whinging about the same day, wondering WHY you’re in that situation and wishing someone would come along and rescue you.

The universe loves you, so stop whinging to it, give it a reason to rescue you.

Der.

Love Dee

PS Enjoy the clip – Robin Sharma is the bomb diggity.